Sex is an important part of health and well-being at every stage of life, but for many people, bringing up sexual health with a doctor can feel uncomfortable or even embarrassing. Whether it’s due to age, upbringing, culture, or uncertainty about what’s "normal," these conversations often go unspoken when they shouldn’t.
Your healthcare provider is there to help with all aspects of your health, including sex. Here’s how to break the ice and talk openly, comfortably, and confidently.
Why Talking About Sex Matters
Ignoring sexual health concerns can lead to:
Undiagnosed medical conditions (like erectile dysfunction or infections)
Relationship stress
Decreased quality of life
Mental health concerns like anxiety or depression
Sexual health includes more than just STD prevention. It’s about comfort, function, consent, desire, and connection. Your concerns are valid, and it’s highly likely that your provider has heard it all before.
Tips for Talking to Your Healthcare Provider About Sex
1. Know That It’s Normal
You’re not the first person to bring this up and you definitely won’t be the last. Doctors and nurses are trained to talk about sensitive topics. Don’t let embarrassment keep you from getting answers or help.
2. Plan Ahead
Think about what you want to discuss. Is it pain during sex? Low libido? Concerns about STDs? Menopause? Make a list of questions beforehand so you feel more confident during your appointment.
3. Use Clear Language
Say what you mean, even if it feels a little awkward. For example, instead of saying “down there,” use terms like vagina, penis, or intercourse. This helps avoid confusion.
4. Start with a Statement
If you're nervous, you can ease into it with phrases like:
“This is a little awkward to bring up, but...”
“I’ve been meaning to ask about something related to my sex life...”
“Can I ask you a personal health question about intimacy?”
5. Ask About Medications and Side Effects
Some medications can affect sexual desire or performance. If you’ve noticed a change, bring it up. Your provider may be able to adjust your treatment.
6. Be Honest
Honesty helps your provider give the best advice. That includes talking about your partners, protection methods, sexual orientation, or any concerns around consent or pleasure.
7. Follow Up
If you forget to ask something or new concerns, come up, it’s okay to bring it up at your next visit or even call in between appointments.
Whether you're single, married, dating, or anything in between, sexual wellness is a vital part of your overall well-being. Don’t let discomfort keep you from getting the care and information you deserve. Your healthcare provider is a resource, not a judge.
Revan Health provides welcoming, respectful family medicine for all from infants to geriatrics. We understand the pain and frustration that comes with not feeling heard by your family care provider. We believe access to respectful care is key to improving medicine adherence and overall life satisfaction for our patients. Like us on Facebook or visit us at revanhealth.com.